Everyone loves a holiday, you can’t beat that feeling of escaping the every day norm. Wearing clothes you’d never dream of wearing in your home town – or is that just me?!! Sun on your face and sand between your toes. I’ve always loved my holidays and every chance I’d have to get away, you’d find me on a plane.
Now I realise I took for granted that I always had someone to travel with, be it with the girls, a partner when in a relationship or a fellow single friend when single. I was fortunate enough to have a good job, that I could also always afford to go and take anyone up on the offers of it being “holiday time”.
Then things changed… I became a single mum and suddenly things weren’t so easy! Not only are funds not so readily available (don’t get me started on the extortionate nursery fee’s) but who do you now go on holiday with?
The Parents – Oh yes, we all probably thought we had said goodbye to holidays with our parents after our 16th Birthdays but hey, when you have kids, they are suddenly a very viable option. They are always so happy to have that quality time with their darling grandchildren. You actually get some time out and oh my, how you wear that halo, feeling that you’ve done a good deed!
The Best friend – This option is bitter sweet. You of course love to go away with your bestie, especially if they are single too but even if they are not, they’re your bestie so why wouldn’t you love going away with them. But then the bitter is, you expect it to be like holidays gone by but alas you are not that same person now and have responsibilities and a little person in tow. Therefore this holiday takes on a whole different meaning. The big one here is also that you never feel like you can ask them to go away with you, for fear that they might feel obliged to, yet underneath thinking, why the hell would I opt to go away with someone with kids when I haven’t got any of my own. So, you just have to wait and hope that maybe they’ll ask……
The Friends with School Age Kids – These would make the perfect holiday choice, given their slightly older kids will also happily play with yours giving you some time out. But wait……oh yes, the school holiday rip off price hike takes place! No matter how much you want to holiday with these guys, you seriously can’t justify either re-mortgaging your house to do it or living on the bread line for a few months when really there’s no need, or at least not for a few years!
Going solo – Oh, now there’s an option! Ok you still have to pay the price of two adults for a room (seriously they should do more about this!), no extra set of hands to assist with that time out. But…you can just up and do it when ever you fancy, funds permitting. Quite liberating, don’t you think?
So, this is where I am at…..
A couple of months ago, I just thought, god I need to get away, I need to feel a bit of winter sun on my skin. I wanted to feel that freedom I used to have to just say “hey lets go somewhere” and go with ease….so I went with the last option and thought let’s bite the bullet and go it alone. It was liberating to just start searching the internet for where I wanted to go and know I could just book a holiday without all of the organising and consulting of what suited everyone.
I have to say I am really excited about the Mum & Son holiday that lies ahead. I may have slightly rose tinted glasses on, there may be times that I wish there was someone else to take over the sandcastle building duties – especially when my son has the habit of always giving me the smallest spade while he just looks on with the big spade in his hand (smug). But hey, let’s see how it goes….
Have you done it? How did it go? Would you do it again? How tinted are my glasses?
I will be sure to blog about the experience but for now, sunshine here we come……..